The Family Virtues Guide, by Linda Kavelin Popov, is an excellent book on virtues training if you would like to approach things from a “world religions” perspective. Quotes are taken out of many different scriptures from various religions and from virtuous leaders.

The beginning talks about who children are, and what our roles are as parents and educators.  A section on “how to use this book” leads into my favorite part – the listing of the virtues and how to “attack” them as a family.  

Each virtue is explained, the “whys” and “hows” are discussed, and there are thought provoking questions such as, “What would trustworthiness look like if…your friend told you a secret he didn’t want anyone else to know? …you promised to do a chore but start to get distracted by TV or a book?” etc.  Each virtue ends with a list of qualities that show you are being successful in that virtue, and another list that shows when you need more practice. Finally, there is an affirmation – a statement in positive language on practicing each virtue, such as, “I act with tact. I think before I speak. I am considerate of other people’s feelings…”

I personally especially needed the list of when you need more practice of each virtue. I tend to see things in the negative — “Oh, you are so depressing!” instead of seeing this as just a “lack of postive”.  I just need more work in practicing joy!

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